Next Steps: Congratulations on your decision to get married in the Church!
The engagement period is a time to not only prepare for your wedding day, but to prepare also for your marriage. The following steps are your starting point in this journey.
Step 1: Meet with priest/deacon witnessing your marriage.
Aside from making sure that the church you hope to have your ceremony in has that date available, you and your fiancé need to make an appointment with your priest/deacon in order to:
- determine your freedom to marry,
- discuss what marriage preparation your priest/deacon wants you to complete (some priests have a preference),
- ask how many times he wants to meet with you and schedule those meetings,
- ask what paperwork you need to gather,
- if you are getting married outside of the Archdiocese of New York, you will have to meet with the priest preparing you for marriage (local) and be in contact with the priest witnessing your ceremony (remote)
- Download the Marriage Prep checklist
Step 2: Register for your marriage preparation classes (required), and your premarital inventory (recommended). Please give yourself ample time to complete both – you should register for your class as soon as you determine which one you want as classes fill up quickly:
Step 3: Follow-up meeting(s) with your priest/deacon. These will be as your priest/deacon requires. You should ask during your initial meeting, how often and when these follow up meeting will happen. Also, this is a good time to bring any questions you might have about anything you heard/learned during your marriage prep class.
Step 4: Attend a Natural Family Planning class. (strongly recommended) Visit our Natural Family Planning page for more information.
If have signed up for marriage preparation, but now need to get there. Locations to marriage preparation events are organized by county. Begin by selecting the county where your event is located:
Marriage preparation events may be postponed or cancelled due to dangerous weather systems bringing snow, hurricanes, tornadoes, or flash-floods.
- Check your email account that you gave when registering for marriage preparation.
- Visit the news section of the Marriage Preparation page for weather announcements.
- Call our office at (646) 794-3185 between normal business hours for up-to-date information.
If your class is cancelled due to inclement weather, please do ALL of the following:
- Visit our Marriage Preparation Registration page to find a new class that fits your schedule.
- Find and have available the confirmation email of your cancelled class with your registration number.
- Call our office at (646) 794-3185 between normal business hours to reschedule your class.
Frequently Asked Questions
Today, there is an increasing number of questions concerning marriage and marriage preparation. For questions on marriage preparation, choose from the frequently asked questions below. If your question is not listed, you may contact us at (646) 794-3185 or at FLRLEvents@nyfamilylife.org.
- What’s the purpose of marriage preparation?
- What are the requirements for marriage under the Church’s law?
- Why does the Church have so many rules about marriage?
- Do we have to give the priest or deacon any documents?
- What if only one of us is a Catholic and the other is non-Catholic Christian?
- What if only one of us is a Catholic and the other is a non-Christian?
- Do I (we) have to be Confirmed before we get married?
- What if one of us was married previously?
- What if we’re getting married outside the Archdiocese?
- What if one of us is from outside of the Archdiocese, or from another country?
- Can we get married in a place other than a Church, like a synagogue, catering hall, or the beach?
- What if we don’t fulfill all the Church’s rules?
- What should we do if we’re living together?
- Does the Church have a position on pre-nuptial agreements?
- Do we need to get a marriage license?
- What is Catholic Couple Checkup premarital inventory?
- What are Prepare-Enrich and FOCCUS premarital inventories?
- What is the “Premarital Interview” or “PMI”?
- Where can we get a Papal blessing for our wedding?
- Where can we find support for living this married lifestyle?